An Attitude of Gratitude (Transcript)

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Roger Marsh: Hello everyone. I'm Roger Marsh and you are tuned to Family Talk. From all of us here at the James Dobson Family Institute, happy Thanksgiving. I have such fond recollections of this day growing up. I remember the delicious smells of food being cooked in the kitchen and spending time with family and friends and especially my grandparents. It was so great to have them over at the house on Thanksgiving Day. Hope you have your own special memories and celebrate meaningful traditions with your loved ones today as well.

Now, in addition to the turkey, the football, and/or the time spent with your family, we must remember to give thanks. God has richly blessed each of our lives for which we should be grateful. We're going to hear about that attitude of gratitude today through a presentation I know you will enjoy. Here now is Dr. James Dobson to greet you and to introduce today's guest.

Dr. Dobson: Well, hello everyone and welcome to Family Talk. I'm your host, Dr. James Dobson. I want to wish you a happy Thanksgiving and hope that you're enjoying this day with family and friends. Thank you for taking some time out of your special day to spend that time with us. We have a great treat for you today that I really think you're going to enjoy. On today's program, we're going to bring you a presentation from my good friend, longtime friend, Chuck Swindoll. He served as the fourth president of Dallas Theological Seminary from 1994 to 2001. Since then he's served as chancellor of Dallas Seminary and senior pastor of Stonebriar Community Church.

He is also the founder of Insight for Living, which produces a radio program of the same name on Christian and non-Christian radio stations around the world. The program is heard on more than 2,000 stations and is translated into several languages. Chuck's message today is all about the importance of thanksgiving. I think there are times in our lives when we get so busy we forget to stop and thank the Lord for His many blessings. Today you will hear that word, thanksgiving, and when it's applied to God's grace it has entirely new meaning. This is an outstanding program. I hope you enjoy it.

The message was taken from a chapel service at Dallas Theological Seminary and his presentation is titled "An Attitude of Gratitude." Let's give a listen now to my good friend, Chuck Swindoll, on today's edition of Family Talk.

Chuck Swindoll: Since I was a little boy I've had a special place in my heart for what is now and has long been my favorite holiday of the year, Thanksgiving. I remember standing as a 10-year-old child at Southmayd Elementary School in a portable building in East Houston with my hand over my heart as we were saying the Pledge of Allegiance to the flag. Our teacher led us in that and then always followed the pledge with a prayer. This particular day she seemed to sort of stumble through the prayer. I didn't understand until later why. Every time her prayer would end with a reciting of The Lord's Prayer, which we would join in and pray with her.

By the time we reached, "Thine is the kingdom and the power and the glory forever and ever, amen," she was audibly sobbing. I found out at recess that she had lost her husband about five months earlier on the blood-washed shores of Normandy, and the one she had loved and lost now left her grieving. She faced her first Thanksgiving and, of course, her first Christmas to follow, without the one she had loved and lost. All of a sudden, my world was reduced to her grief and I found myself walking home slowly that afternoon along streets filled with little, modest, pre-war houses. In the living room windows of many of those homes were bright red stars that over the course of months that would pass would change to white crosses as another beloved son or brother or grandson would have fallen in his last full measure of devotion to his country.

I walked slowly that day and I think during that time I began to cultivate a special place in my heart for this particular holiday. It would follow, of course, that next day and thankfully I was reared in a home where the name of God was mentioned often, where we had prayer at every meal, and Christ was worshiped and the work of the church was admired. I am eternally grateful for that heritage which I have come to realize in my years in ministry is not the heritage of many, dear I say most, certainly most of this generation. I had no idea on that day that some 14 years later I would celebrate Thanksgiving isolated and lonely, wearing the uniform of the United States Marine Corps on a South Pacific island.

Little did I know at that time when that happened that God's hand was all over those months of loneliness away from my wife and away from my family. Little did I realize that a year from then, my next Thanksgiving would be celebrated on this campus as a first-year student in the year 1959. Each Thanksgiving, Cynthia and I would always have something special that we would do for other students. I think it was our second, may have been our third year, we invited all of the international students on the campus on that particular Thanksgiving Day. In those days, the only international students present at the school were the Korean men who were there. At that time it was an all-male school.

These men were there. Most of them would be away from their families for four years without interruption. They never went home. They were gracious enough to accept our invitation and they came and filled the room. I believe there were 12 to 13 of them, white shirt, black ties, black pants, looked like a room full of Mormons as they stood around the table. We were all there. One man later became Dr. Kim who is a pastor of one of the large Presbyterian churches in Seoul, began to cry. He said, "I've never seen this much food in all my life." He said, "We could feed a Korean family on this, if we could preserve it, for six months or more." I said to him, "Would you lead us in prayer in your native tongue and then would you men sing the Korean National Anthem?"

Oh man. So, he began to pray and if you've ever been around Koreans as they pray, they go from Africa to Zurich in their list. After the film started to form over the gravy I noticed as he was praying and he wasn't in a hurry, nor should he have been. And then they sang. When they sang, they stood with their arms by their sides and their chests out and they just bellowed the Korean National Anthem. It was a magnificent moment. By then we were all in tears. We, of course, spent the afternoon feasting on the meal. I have learned since then the importance of truly observing Thanksgiving. We plan to do it this Thursday with members of our family. There'll be 15 of us at our table.

We make special arrangements. We do a special meal and we all sort of pitch in and then we spend time around the table expressing what we're grateful for. God has given us a psalm of thanksgiving which we often read as a family when we are observing this day, and today it becomes for us our focus. "Bless the Lord, oh my soul, and all that is within me. Bless His holy name. Bless the Lord, oh my soul, and forget none of His benefits." What a grand word that opening verb is. It is repeated at the end of the psalm. In fact, the identical line that begins Psalm 103 ends Psalm 103. "Barach," it means to bow the knee before one's sovereign.

It is the whole idea of acknowledging the awesome presence of one's God. The psalmist David, wherever he is and whatever may have been his circumstances, he's caught up in this magnificent moment of praise to his God. Interestingly, he doesn't exhort the reader to bless the Lord. He doesn't exhort the nation he serves over as king. He exhorts himself, "Oh my soul, bless the Lord." He speaks to himself. So what we have in the psalm for five verses, words directed to one's self, in this case the psalmist, in our case, the reader. He enumerates a number of things that he is grateful for. And then he turns to the nation at verse 6 and he blesses the Lord as nation and he gives God praise for His goodness, loving kindness, compassion, mercy, and protection.

And then at the end, about verse 19 down to 22, it is a blessing that is international and universal as he speaks to the angels and says to them, "Bless Yahweh. Bless his holy name, you who flood his presence with your praise and adoration." I love the words of Spurgeon on this psalm, especially the first five verses. Here David begins his list of blessings received which he rehearses as themes for praise. He selects a few of the choicest pearls from the divine love, threads them on the string of memory, and hangs them about the neck of gratitude. This is a grateful man whose life has been scarred and marred by sin and affliction, adversity, hardship. Who knows how many times David wanted to just run as far as he could?

He's known days like that and there's not a person in this room who can't identify with those feelings. He's been at the lowest depths and he's been at the heights of his emotions. Now with stylus in hand, he sits down, actually may have written it on his knees, and he bows his heart low before his sovereign God and he strings the pearls along this necklace of gratitude. Now, for what is he grateful? Look for yourself. After acknowledging that he is to bless God and forget none of those benefits, he now names five specific benefits. Each begins with who, referring to our sovereign God. "This Lord whom my soul blesses has pardoned all your iniquities." Isn't that great?

Think back. Don't go too far or that's all you'll be doing for the rest of the time. Just think back over the last six months. It's a harsh journey, but go back to those sins that you've been forgiven of. He's forgiven you every one of them. He pardons all your iniquities. He likes the word "all" in this psalm. It's used frequently. How kind of our God to pardon our iniquities. Look down at verse 10. He has not dealt with us according to our sins. He has not rewarded us according to our iniquities. "As high as the heavens are above the Earth, so great is His [foreign language 00:15:35] loving kindness toward those who fear Him." He'll come back to that word in a few moments.

He's already mentioned it actually earlier in the psalm. "My sin, oh the bliss of this glorious thought. My sin, not in part but the whole is nailed to the cross. I bear it no more. Bless the Lord, oh my soul. I bear it no more." As far as what? "East is from west, so far has He removed our transgressions from us. He forgives us all our iniquities and He doesn't measure them against us." In the months to come, He doesn't haunt you with them in your studies at this school. He doesn't dog your steps with your iniquities. If He did, we would all quit. But thank God, He forgives us. He pardons us all our iniquities. The second troubles us.

He is the same sovereign who heals all our diseases. Wait. Wait. I would love to just race right on through that but realism won't let me. Too many diseases I know right now haven't been healed. I buried a dear brother a few weeks ago who wasn't healed of a disease. It took him. So obviously we can't read this literally because we know there are diseases that aren't healed. It might be well to consider this as reference to adversities and setbacks or perhaps the diseases that sometime follow such bitterness, revenge, those things that come as a result of our lacking forgiveness of others, those diseases of the soul, those emotional diseases over which the Lord is able to heal us and heal all of them.

Look at verse 6. "The Lord performs righteous deeds and judgment for all who are oppressed." There it is. I can't mention that matter of adversity and setback without remembering Job, everybody's hero. Took him a long time to find healing, long time. His book is a philosophical book and it's filled with questions. In fact, he says on one occasion, "I would that I could stand before Him and argue with Him." You too would say that having buried all of your children and all of your servants and found yourself bankrupt, no ability to make a living and sitting in sackcloth and ashes. But he began to get a breakthrough about chapter 23.

"He knows the way that I take when He has tried me. I will come forth as gold. My foot has held his steps. Neither have I gone back from the command of His lips. I have esteemed," great word in the Hebrew. "I value the words of His mouth more than my necessary food." Check it out for yourself. Job 23:10-12. He's getting a breakthrough. He's beginning to be healed in the midst of the disease of disillusionment and what could have been bitterness, which tragically his wife suffered from. "Curse God and die." Be careful that you don't mock his wife. She too had lost all the children.

My daddy used to say, "We don't all have the same put-together." We got a different put-together. I can roll through some things and Cynthia's stuck back here. Some things she can take and handle them so much better than I. I can't get on first base. Here's a couple in the midst of their loss who are trying to make it through. So when you come to Thanksgiving, take time to thank Him for forgiven sins, that He's pardoned all of your iniquities. Take time this Thanksgiving to thank Him for the adversities and setbacks He's healed you, and begun to heal you of. Take time for that.

He also redeemed your life from the pit. I like that word, pit. I like it when the prophet says praise that he would remember the pit from which he had been dug. He redeems your life. His reference to the pit of sin, no doubt, the pit of eternal punishment that would have been yours and should have been yours, all things considered, save the death of Christ. The pit of corruption. Look at 15 of this same chapter. "As for man, his days are like grass. As a flower of the field, he flourishes. When the wind has passed over it, it is no more and its place acknowledges it no longer. But the loving kindness," there's that word again, "of the Lord is from everlasting to everlasting."

"I waited patiently for the Lord and He inclined unto me and heard my cry. He lifted me up from an horrible pit, from the miry clay and established my going," Psalm 40:1-3. Great verses to repeat at Thanksgiving time. When Thanksgiving comes, take time to recall a few of the pits of your past. Give Him thanks for redeeming your life from those pits. When Thanksgiving comes, remember His rewards. Look at this one, "He crowns you with loving kindness," there's that word, [foreign language 00:22:20], "and compassion." This Thanksgiving, call to mind His grace. You stumbled through the grace of God all the way through this psalm.

It's His grace. It's His grace. This Thanksgiving, thank Him for those loving kindnesses and His compassions, that fail not, that are new every morning, every morning. We read, "He satisfies your years with good things so that your youth is renewed like an eagle." Ties in beautifully with the last of Isaiah 41, "By Him therefore let us offer the sacrifice of praise to God continually that is the fruit of our lips giving thanks to His name." Hebrews 13:15. Offer sacrifices of praise. That's why you have lips. Every Thanksgiving, remember this talk. Every Thanksgiving.

Whether you have much or little, make it a special day. Fix whatever meal you can afford to fix. Bring with you around the table those you can bring. After feasting on whatever it may have been, push the plates back and tell your stories. Remember all of those iniquities from which He has pardoned you. Remember the afflictions and adversities through which He has taken you and healed you. Remember the pit from which He has redeemed you, crowned you with loving kindness, compassion. As you look around at those white hairs and older lives, give thanks for them as well.

Dr. Dobson: What an appropriate message for Thanksgiving Day. I hope you were encouraged by it and developed a new appreciation for an attitude of thanksgiving. You've been listening to a sermon by my great friend, Chuck Swindoll, here on Family Talk. If you'd like to learn more about Dr. Swindoll's ministry, go to our broadcast page at If today's message encouraged you, I would love to hear about it. You can write me a letter and send it to: 540 Elkton Drive, Colorado Springs, CO 80907. I look forward to hearing from you.

I'm Dr. James Dobson and I thank you so much for listening to our program on a busy day, a day of celebration. I hope you and your family and friends have a wonderful Thanksgiving. I'll end today's program by quoting Numbers 6, "May the Lord bless you and keep you and make His face shine upon you and give you peace."

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