Question: True or False? I believe if a couple is genuinely in love, that condition is permanent, lasting a lifetime.
Answer: Love, even genuine love, is a fragile thing. Love can perish when a husband works seven days a week...when there is no time for romantic activity...when he and his wife forget how to talk to each other. The keen edge in a loving relationship may be dulled through the routine pressures of living, as I experienced during the early days of my marriage to Shirley. I was working full time and trying to finish my doctorate at the University of Southern California. My wife was teaching school and maintaining our small home. I remember clearly the evening that I realized what this busy life was doing to our relationship. We still loved each other, but it had been too long since we had felt a spirit of warmth and closeness. My text books were pushed aside that night and we went for a long walk together. The following semester I carried a very light load in school and postponed my academic goals so as to preserve that which I valued more highly.
Where does your marriage rank on your hierarchy of values? Does it get the leftovers and scraps from your busy schedule, or is it something of great worth to be preserved and supported? It can die if left untended.
By Dr. James Dobson