Q. I am depressed much of the time and worry about whether or not my children will be affected by my moods. Are children typically sensitive to parental discouragement and depression?
A. According to Dr. Norman S. Brandes, a child psychiatrist, children are very sensitive to depression in the adults around them. They often become depressed themselves, even though adults think they've hidden their despair. Furthermore, you are watched carefully by your children, who are "learning" how you deal with frustration. You are effectively teaching them, through your own depression, to react similarly in the future.
If your depression is chronic, as you indicate, I would suggest that you seek professional advice. Begin with your physician, who may recognize a physical cause for your constant discouragement. If not, he or she may refer you for psychological assistance. This does not mean you are mentally ill or neurotic. It may indicate nothing more than that you need to examine the things that are bothering you with the help of a competent counselor.
The New Hide or Seek
By Dr. James Dobson